Doing “Fun Things” With Mommy on Bedrest

For Works for Me Wednesday, here are a few ideas from my current experience involving toddlers & bedrest (What a challenging combo, let me tell you!). I’ve listed some ideas that have worked with my three-year-old daughter–and a plea for help with my 19-month-old son! Please comment–for my sanity and his!

Having a three-year-old daughter with you when you’re on bedrest isn’t all that bad. (It’s the 19-month-old boy I struggle to keep entertained.)

My daughter is forever running into my bedroom, saying, “Mommy, can we do some fun things together?”

And by “fun things” she is referencing the stack of kids’ stuff next to my bed. In that stack I keep things Mara and I can do together while I lay in my bed. (Unfortunately, I have found nothing that Micah and I can do together to add to the stack.)

We have:

  • A feltboard: Aunt Darla gave Mara and Micah FeltTales Busy Day at the Farm Story Board for Christmas. This is a great toy for preschoolers! Mara calls it her “cardboard,” and every day she asks, “Can we play with the cardboard?” She pretends the kids are going apple picking; milking the cow (then feeding the cow its own milk out of the pail!); planting the garden; playing with the other farm animals . . . I think it would be a great “travel” toy too. We may bring it next summer when we drive to Florida for my sister’s wedding.
  • Candyland: I got this game at the thrift store for 99 cents, in great condition, and it was one of Mara’s Christmas presents too. She is just barely old enough to play this game. It took her awhile to understand that you have to take the top card off the pile (you can’t go through the pile and pick) and that your goal is getting to the Candy Castle–not drawing cards with candy on them, regardless of how far they set you back.
  • Memory: Another Christmas present Mara received, conveniently packaged as a hard plastic “book” that can be stored on a shelf. She does pretty well with this game. (I think all kids have to be reminded they can only turn over two cards on their turn, even if they suddenly remember where the match is.) I’m considering dividing the game in half until she’s a little older, because with 72 cards, the game takes a long time and she’s usually yawning halfway through. We have yet to complete an entire game.
  • Little Bear and Dress-up Clothes: She was given a little bear with three outfits: cheerleader, cowboy and angel. She loves dressing and undressing the bear, but she can’t do it all by herself, so it’s perfect for both of us sitting on the bed and whenever she needs help, I’m right there.
  • Bible Story Books: Mara considers it a special treat to read Bible stories and sing songs together. So I keep those by the bed too. We are flying through the book right now, because we have so much time for reading right now!
  • Charts: Mara practices ABCs (letters and sounds) every day. We usually do Bible stories and charts for the first 20 – 30 minutes of Micah’s nap; then Mara goes down for her nap too. She loves doing “charts.” One day I heard her say, “Daddy! Maybe today I can teach you charts!” and she did. He said she got almost all the letters right, except she sometimes mixes up “U,” “V,” and “W.” Daniel would tease her and say, “‘A’ says ‘Buh-Bear’,” and of course Mara would correct him with the right sounds. 🙂
  • Stickers/Coloring
  • Many, many other books: Reading is probably Mara’s favorite pastime!
  • Brain Quest for ages 2-3: I was given Deck 3 by a freecycler. I wish I had the next level (Brain Quest for Threes), because Mara whips right through this one, and I think she will get bored with it after a couple times through it. But she enjoys answering the questions and she has learned several things going through it. We use it as a springboard to discuss new concepts (like beavers, building a campfire, or different kinds of insects).
  • Girly Stuff: Once a day Mara gets a squirt of body spray (Bath & Body Works’ Black Raspberry Vanilla), and we lotion our hands and put on chapstick. Mara loves girly stuff!

In just a few short weeks (weeks, not days, right??) Mara’s little sister will be born, and we will not have nearly so much time to spend together. So when Mara says, “Can we do fun things together?” I treasure those times!

And if any readers have ideas of “fun things” a 19-month-old boy would enjoy doing while Mom’s on bedrest, I’m all ears! I would love to spend more one-on-one time with him too before this baby comes. 🙂

So, tonight, after I turned out Mara’s light, I said, “Nite-nite, sweetie. I had fun with you today.”

Mara said, “Thank you for playing CandyLand with me! It’s fun doing lots of things when you’re on bedrest.” 

That made my day.

Wedding Dress Shopping

My sister got engaged a couple weeks ago and she and her fiance are planning a May wedding in Florida. We (Mom, Micah and I) got to go wedding dress shopping with her while she was in town.

I suppose this wedding-dress-shopping-thing may be once-in-a-lifetime for my little Micahman, so as you can imagine, I took some pictures . . .

He loved looking through the dresses!

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And what wedding dress shopping trip is complete (when you’re 17 months old!) without a little dressing-room-peek-a-boo?

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He loved the mirrors . . .

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Looked in shock at the alteration fees . . .

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And stood in awe of the beautiful bride no matter which dress she wore.

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He couldn’t help picking up that lacey train.

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But after awhile, getting restless, he began to do little-boy things, like looking at his tongue in the mirror. . .

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Then he started playing “find-my-belly-button” . . .

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And he tried to get the bride to play too. (She didn’t. Just for the record.)

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But all in all, we thought he did quite well, wedding dress shopping.

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A Picture on the Bookshelf

It’s been over a year since I’ve seen my Mom and Dad. But they live in South Dakota, so it’s not as if we could make it a weekend trip–or even drive there in 12 hours . . .  or 18 . .  or 20 . . .  Well, I suppose someone has probably driven it in 20.

It’s basically two days’ drive or a lot of frequent flyer miles, which can be cost-prohibitive, especially when you’re a family of almost 5.

It’s been over a year since I’ve seen my brother and sister-in-law too. They live in South Carolina, which granted is only one days’ drive. But still.

And we got to visit my sister Mary in Florida and meet her boyfriend back in May. And Mary visited earlier this spring too. So far this year, my sister has been the only “family” I have seen. And it is now November.

But all that is about to change.

My brother & sister-in-law arrive on Thursday and get to stay for a week–until Thanksgiving Day. My sister-in-law has a professional exam here in the city (is it the Certified Financial Planner? I need to ask her!) that weekend, so they are making a “mini-vacation” of it. She has to work the day after Thanksgiving, so we will eat Thanksgiving Dinner for lunch to get them on the road!

My sister is arriving Wednesday before Thanksgiving and staying through Saturday.

My parents are coming in Thanksgiving morning, because my dad will be preaching in South Amboy, New Jersey, on Saturday and Sunday at the church where I spent 10 of my primitive years. Then my mom will stay with us for a little over a week after that!

As I understand it, we will all be together in the same house for about 5 hours or so . . . if all goes according to plan . . . which hasn’t happened since October 2008.

I’ve told the kids about it. Mara understands. She talks to Grandma and Grandpa on Skype, and she knows they’re coming. I’m not quite sure what Micah understands yet.

But lately, he has been going over to the bookshelf, taking down the picture of my family (from our wedding) and pointing to each of the people in the picture and jabbering.

I’m not sure what he’s saying. But I tell him who each person is, and that they’re coming for a visit. And he actually looks at each person with interest.

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So, wow, I will catching up with some people I love!

And my little boy, who has only met his Grandma and Grandpa once, will get to know them in a closer way than just a picture on the bookshelf.

Halloween PJs

Halloween PJs 010I’m forever looking at clearance sales, with next year in mind.

Last year I found these Halloween PJs at Carter’s for $1.99 each. At that time it was hard to imagine the kids being that size in just a year.

But thankfully, they both still fit, since both kids are on the verge of outgrowing them.

My kids have worn them the entire month. (And I’m fine with them wearing them after Halloween too. After all, they’re just PJs.) So we’re getting our two bucks’ worth out of them.

Halloween PJs 006-1Micah’s PJs say “Boo!” which is one of the few words he tries to say on a regular basis. Of course, when he says it, it sounds more like “Buh!” but it’s the same idea.

Mara’s say “Wickedly Cute” and I can’t think of two more appropriate words for my crazy little girl! 😉

Halloween PJs 022-2I took these pictures right after bathtime on Wednesday night. Mara didn’t want me to dry her hair; she said it would dry all by itself in the night. And she kept getting super-frustrated at Micah, who wanted to look at her and talk to her, while she gave her best smiles. She would suddenly flail her arms and say, “Micah! LOOK at the camera!”

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Maybe YOU should be the Stay-at-home-DAD!

The other day Mara asked for a “special treat” (an M&M) which are solely reserved for after she has gone potty if her underwear is dry!

She knows the policy.

When I reminded her, she ran to the stairs, and faster than ever, Mara was on the potty. Before we knew it, she was back downstairs in the dining room asking again for her special treat.

Daniel and I happened to look over at Micah. He had watched the whole interaction with great interest and was now pulling furiously on his diaper.

Completely seriously, Daniel said, “Maybe he needs to go potty too. Take him!”

I was incredulous!

“You can’t be serious! He’s not even 17 months old. Mara was several months older when she started potty training. Besides he’s a boy, and boys take longer to learn than girls do, and good grief! he can’t even feed himself out of a spoon without flinging food around the dining room! Do you really want to have to teach him about aim already? . . . ”

But Micah’s insistent pulling on his diaper won Daddy over. “At least, let him try.” Then Daniel switched his approach: “Wouldn’t it be nice to get him potty-trained before the baby comes?!”

“Oh, yes. So you take him,” I said. “I know nothing about training boys!” Naturally, I ended up taking him. I took off his diaper (which was wet) and set him on the potty.

Unlike Mara at this age, he was not at all afraid to sit there on the “big potty.” In fact, he looked quite pleased with himself. I tried my best to encourage him. But nothing happened. He just sat there. And seemed completely at peace with the whole scenario.

Then, after several seconds of sitting quietly, he reached for the toilet paper. And I realized what was happening.

He was getting himself a “special treat,” just like he had seen his big sister do, probably hundreds of times!

He hopped right off the potty, I put a clean diaper on him, and when we went back downstairs, he did exactly what I expected him to do: headed straight for the jar of Special Treats!

I gave him one anyway.

After all the trouble he went to and how perfectly he understood the routine, it seemed like he should get some sort of reward!

“He’s not ready yet,” I said to Daniel. “He wants Special Treats. Maybe you should be the stay-at-home-dad!”