That Little Voice on “Fight For Preemies Day”

FightForPreemiesNovember is Prematurity Awareness Month. Did you know that? Today, November 17, it’s Fight for Preemies Day. After one baby born at 32 weeks, we are fighting for this next one! I’m at 24-1/2 weeks now.

My case manager called this afternoon–she is so perfect for me! I need her in my life! She always says, “I’m not telling you this to frighten you–I just want you to be aware.”

And for me, that awareness is exactly what I need.

She called today to follow up on Monday’s ultrasound. She too was perplexed by the cervical length from the ultrasound.

A little background: My initial ultrasound showed a cervical length of 3.4. The next ultrasound: 3.1. We were hoping it would remain around 3 cm, with the weekly progesterone shots I’m taking. But yesterday’s ultrasound showed 3.9, although the tech seemed to second-guess herself several times during the ultrasound, and later told me one thing and then changed her mind, which raised questions for me about the accuracy of the measurement. When I asked her, “Is that typical? To go from 3.4, to 3.1, back up to 3.9?”

She didn’t offer any explanation, she just said, “Oh absolutely! Absolutely it could do that!”

I was about to ask her if she could double-check. But then I realized that when I asked if she could tell me if she was still seeing “girl parts,” she had responded, “Was it a girl last time? . . . Well, then it hasn’t changed.” :-/ So I decided not to bother asking her to re-measure, and just to discuss it with the Ob.

Of course, when she called the high-risk specialist (on the phone), and said, “She’s a 3.9” (without mentioning my prior measurements), he thought that sounded great.

Monica, my case manager, said that she does see those kind of variations, but typically they are due either to a difference in the way the techs measure or an inaccuracy in measurement.

“Unfortunately,” Monica said, “this raises more questions, than it answers and just leaves you with more anxiety, since you’re still experiencing contractions.” That said, she added, “I do think it’s probably safe to say: it’s likely that you are still a 3, although I doubt you are actually a 3.9, so we are probably not dealing with cervical incompetency. It’s probably more an issue of an irritable uterus. The question now is: How much irritability does your uterus withstand, before it becomes preterm labor?”

She told me that the 17p progesterone is supposed to relax the uterus so it doesn’t contract at all, and there is no way to gauge how many more contractions I might be having at this point, if I were not on the progesterone.

She raised an interesting point. She said with contractions this early in pregnancy, we are not looking for all the traditional labor signs that you would look for at the end of pregnancy. She said if I experience more than four contractions within an hour (and they do not subside with rest and hydration), I need to be on the phone with my Ob. Some women who have delivered babies previously assume, since they’re not in “hard labor” or having difficult or very close contractions, that the baby is alright. That’s not the case. Her point was that the baby weighs about 1 lb., 12 ozs. at this point. I’ve delivered two babies already. She said at this stage of pregnancy, you don’t have to be dilated 10 cm to deliver–this baby could easily come at 4 or 5 cm because of its size. She said if I am dilated at all, even 2-3 cm at week 24, I would be likely hospitalized (unlike with Micah, who was larger when I was at 3 cm, and I was allowed to be home on bedrest until 4 cm).

She said, “I’m going to call you next week before Thanksgiving, and I know you’ll have family in town. But I just want to be that little voice in the back of your mind saying ‘Take it easy. You don’t want to be on bedrest or hospitalized.'”

I needed to hear that perspective. It really didn’t frighten me at all. But the awareness is something I need! And I appreciate that “little voice.” Little Boo, someday, will appreciate that little voice–after she is born healthy at full-term, right?!

That brings me back to Fight for Preemies Day, which is all about awareness!

One of my favorite blogs is The Spors Are Multiplying about Maddie, a 28-weeker who spent 10 weeks in NICU and unfortunately passed away at 17 months due to complications of her prematurity. Her mother is pregnant–due in February–and they are obviously monitoring “Binky’s” pregnancy very closely. Today’s post was about Fight for Preemies Day, written by a mom who through deep grief has learned all too well the need for awareness. . .

Fox News ran a story today about March of Dimes’ work to prevent preterm birth. It’s the story of Joshua Hoffman, who was born four months premature, weighing 1 lb. 11 ozs. His family is the 2010 National Ambassador Family for March of Dimes. Joshua’s mom successfully delivered her second son full-term, with the help of my favorite weekly shot–you guessed it, 17p hydroxyprogesterone! That was encouraging to me as well.

I never ever imagined I would have a preemie–even after two of my best friends–bridesmaids in my wedding–had preemies. It just seems like something that happens to “someone else.” Thankfully, my little 32-weeker (who incidentally was throwing my little decorative pumpkins over the back of the couch tonight and crawling off the couch to go get them and do it again) seems to be completely normal now, free of any long-term developmental problems or needs for surgery or special treatment! We named him “Micah”–which means “Who is like our God?!” We praise Him for His goodness!

So! On this day, take a moment. Be aware. Fight for Preemies.

A Picture on the Bookshelf

It’s been over a year since I’ve seen my Mom and Dad. But they live in South Dakota, so it’s not as if we could make it a weekend trip–or even drive there in 12 hours . . .  or 18 . .  or 20 . . .  Well, I suppose someone has probably driven it in 20.

It’s basically two days’ drive or a lot of frequent flyer miles, which can be cost-prohibitive, especially when you’re a family of almost 5.

It’s been over a year since I’ve seen my brother and sister-in-law too. They live in South Carolina, which granted is only one days’ drive. But still.

And we got to visit my sister Mary in Florida and meet her boyfriend back in May. And Mary visited earlier this spring too. So far this year, my sister has been the only “family” I have seen. And it is now November.

But all that is about to change.

My brother & sister-in-law arrive on Thursday and get to stay for a week–until Thanksgiving Day. My sister-in-law has a professional exam here in the city (is it the Certified Financial Planner? I need to ask her!) that weekend, so they are making a “mini-vacation” of it. She has to work the day after Thanksgiving, so we will eat Thanksgiving Dinner for lunch to get them on the road!

My sister is arriving Wednesday before Thanksgiving and staying through Saturday.

My parents are coming in Thanksgiving morning, because my dad will be preaching in South Amboy, New Jersey, on Saturday and Sunday at the church where I spent 10 of my primitive years. Then my mom will stay with us for a little over a week after that!

As I understand it, we will all be together in the same house for about 5 hours or so . . . if all goes according to plan . . . which hasn’t happened since October 2008.

I’ve told the kids about it. Mara understands. She talks to Grandma and Grandpa on Skype, and she knows they’re coming. I’m not quite sure what Micah understands yet.

But lately, he has been going over to the bookshelf, taking down the picture of my family (from our wedding) and pointing to each of the people in the picture and jabbering.

I’m not sure what he’s saying. But I tell him who each person is, and that they’re coming for a visit. And he actually looks at each person with interest.

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So, wow, I will catching up with some people I love!

And my little boy, who has only met his Grandma and Grandpa once, will get to know them in a closer way than just a picture on the bookshelf.

Some Evidence that Watching TV Makes You Stupid

A lot of times when a 2-year-old quotes you, she’ll get the quote just right enough for you to understand what she’s referring to, but just wrong enough to be amusing.

The other day Mara said to me, “Daddy said I couldn’t watch too much TV because Bugs Bunny makes you ‘tupid! [stupid]”

I think he probably said something to the effect that she couldn’t watch too much Bugs Bunny, because watching too much TV makes you stupid. I tried to clear it up. I’m not sure if she really understood or not.

But here’s a picture from last night, that just confirms watching too much television makes you stupid.

Here they are watching Clifford.

(Note especially the one in the middle!)

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The Test Will Be Monday

I have been taking 17p hydroxyprogesterone shots to prevent preterm labor for four weeks now–one month! My husband continues such stellar shot administration that I have begun to question whether his true calling may not be in I.T. after all–maybe it’s the medical profession! In fact, maybe I’ll just let him deliver this next baby! 😉 (I say that entirely to incite a reaction from him! Neither of us wants him delivering the baby!) On Monday I will have another ultrasound to see if the progesterone is doing its job.

My case manager called me this afternoon. It’s always helpful to talk with her, because she gives me specific goals related to my condition. Sometimes it’s challenging when you meet a new doctor with every visit, and have to bring them up to speed on your whole pregnancy history and then listen to their one-time assessment. I know you rotate through all the doctors, because you never know who will be on call to actually deliver your child, but it certainly is helpful to have one person following me throughout the entire pregnancy. Thank you, Monica!

Basically she’s hoping we will still see a cervical length of 3 or greater than 3. (The 1st ultrasound showed a cervical length of 3.4, the 2nd ultrasound showed 3.1.) The goal is for the progesterone shots to keep that number steady around 3. If that’s the case, she believes the high risk specialists will be pleased and say ‘continue with the progesterone, no more ultrasounds for now, unless you’re having a significant increase in contractions or some other cause for concern.’ However, if we see the cervical length dropping to, say, 2.5, I will be put on bedrest. (Sometimes I think she throws statements like that around, just to remind me if I don’t watch it, I could be on bedrest again soon.) Even 2.8 she said would not be a healthy sign, because it would show that I am “progressing,” in a way that we don’t want me to “progress” until much much further in the pregnancy!

She continually encourages me to “take it easy” now whenever I can, by limiting anything I know will  cause cramping/contractions, so I don’t find myself “taking it easy permanently” on bedrest, till the baby comes. (And we all know how I feel about that!)

So now I have something specific to look for in next Monday’s ultrasound . . .

Tonight I will be vaccinated against H1N1, the legendary swine flu of 2009. When Daniel gets home from work, I will be driving up to Willow Grove for my shot.

I have such mixed feelings about it. I’ve never even had a flu shot–for the typical “seasonal flu”–in my life! And I just don’t know what to think–with good friends on both sides of the debate–and medical people on both sides too. A bit disconcerting, I have to admit!

Last year my son, who was born almost 2 months premature, had the RSV shots (monthly) and the seasonal flu shot as well. Our whole family got sick five times last winter: three rounds of the respiratory flu and two bouts with the stomach bug. Micah was by far the healthiest one of us–the one who had the slightest touch of sickness each time and the one who bounced back the quickest. So either he is Mr. Incredible (which is a real possibility), or there’s something to be said for the flu shot (at least, last year’s flu shot!).

Since the kids and I are in the “high risk” category for H1N1, we had been thinking we might all get the shots this year. Then last week I received a letter from my hospital: since I am 24 weeks pregnant, I’m in the high risk category and the shot is being administered at the hospital with which my Ob is affiliated.

We decided I should go for it.

Our pediatrician’s office is not in favor of the H1N1 shot for children and is not administering it. So that still leaves us with the burden of deciding what to do about the kids . . .

I’m SOOO open to feedback right now! And I’ll keep you posted on how my shot goes tonight.

Sweet Moments to Treasure

Moms everywhere keep telling me, “Enjoy this stage–it’s going to go by so fast.”

And so in the midst of potty training, and learning to share with her brother, and learning not cry over what she has to wear (or eat or what she’s told to do), there are moments of unbelievable sweetness.

Which I will always treasure.

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